4. “It all depends on how the mother is feeling. A happy mother is a good mother. There are times when you need to use a harsher tone. But the most important thing is that he knows that his mother loves him. Tell him that every day and every night, before bedtime, kiss him, hug him. That way, your child will see the times when you’re harsher as exceptions, not as normality.”
5. “When my little girl does something and I get mad, I make a face and I say: I’ll catch you, and I start chasing her. And while I’m chasing her, a difficult situation turns into a game.”
6. “Instead of screaming at your child, try to imitate an animal of express yourself through other sounds that come naturally to you. This will help you to not say mean words to your child, words that you will regret later, when you’re calm again.”
7. “We must tell our children, no matter what age they are, even babies, about how we feel. When you’re tired or when you’re in a bad mood, tell your child that. He will understand. And if you start yelling, he will get over it easier.”
8. “I think that you can yell at your child, but keep any hatred or aggressiveness out of your voice, because these are the things that scare and profoundly upset children…”
9. “If you’re scolding the child, talk to him about his behavior, about what he’s done, about his deed, without humiliating him, or attacking his personality. Remember and always emphasize in your conversations with the child: that he is alright, but that the way he behaved was wrong. Don’t label him!”
10. “Most adults can manage their emotions when they need to. For example, you can help yourself from yelling to your boss, from fear of losing your job. But, unfortunately, we never worry about our children that way. Maybe we’d learn how to constructively manage our conflicts with them if we thought more about how we might lose their love and respect or destroy their trust in us through these mean words…”
After reading these 10 pieces of advice, you’ve probably already noticed that the first thing a parent must do in order to stop yelling at his child is to make the decision to change his behavior.
The good news is that, once you’ve made that decision, it will be much easier for you to find the perfect way to act and react in order to express your emotions in a way that doesn’t damage your relationship with him.