Firstly, look at the overall picture. It’s not enough to want these three things for your child, in general. You also need to know what you can do in order to offer your child the chance to have them and to make sure that you’re not actually impairing his chances of success, without even realizing the negative part you’re playing in his future.
When it comes to his child’s health, every parent will do his best and won’t postpone action, for fear of immediate, serious consequences. And, on this front, it’s not just the parent making decisions, there are also doctors involved, guiding him.
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Happiness is an abstract concept and can’t be controlled by the parent, neither now or in the future.
But when it comes to success, as parent you have a great deal of power, if you only become aware of it. And I’m not talking about placing the entire weight and responsibility of becoming successful solely on your child’s shoulders, as a form of constant pressure: “if you don’t study now, you won’t be able to…, if you don’t behave now, you won’t…, if you don’t listen to me now, you won’t…” You say these words because you want to have a successful child, and, that way, you assume that you’re setting him on the right track towards that. But it’s not enough. In fact, this almost never works, because, after a while, the child will simply stop listening to you.
Remember when you were 10 or when you were on the brink of adolescence. When you heard these phrases, did you really believe them? Were they making you more ambitious, were they bringing you on the right track? Or did you think that your parents simply didn’t know you, didn’t trust you and that these threats were just mock threats?
If you want to have a successful child, you should stop using this ancient approach that doesn’t even work, but that most parents keep using because they don’t know what else to do.
Today, I’ll be teaching you 6 not very complicated, but extremely powerful things, that will help you make sure your child is successful.
1.Parents of successful children give them responsibilities.
You’re so used to the idea that your child is too young and that you need to do everything for him, that you’re missing out on the fact that he’s reached an age when he can do anything by himself: take his dirty plate to the kitchen, pick up his own toys, put on his socks, tidy up his shoes, put his clothes in the wardrobe, brush his teeth, wipe his own butt, etc.
But your child doesn’t just start doing these things on his own when he’s 3 years, 2 months and 5 days old. He may be able to do them, but he’s not programmed to. Parents should encourage their children to do that, to increasingly give them responsibilities, be consistent when the child refuses to attend to these things (because it’s easier not to, or your mom simply does them for him).
Clearly delegate responsibility, put drawings all around the house if you have to, in order to remind your child of what he has to do. Ask him to do those things repeatedly and clearly, for a long time if necessary, until they become habits.
What’s the lesson here? Your child learns about real life, about how everything is made of responsibilities, about how we must balance these things with other things, that we enjoy, that mom shouldn’t do everything around the house, that he can take care of himself. As a boy, he will learn that he also needs do some of the house chores. As a girl, she will learn that she shouldn’t do everything around the house just because she’s a woman.
2.They teach their children social skills.
Sometimes, socializing isn’t easy. Especially when you don’t know how to do it. And while some kids make friends faster, others struggle with it. So, it’s also a parent’s responsibility to teach their children social skills and encourage them to practice. The younger he is when he starts getting along with other kids (kindergarten), when he starts to understand other people’s feelings, to solve his own problems, to help his colleagues, the better his chances of success. Because success is strongly influenced by social skills and by emotional intelligence.