The photos that accompany these articles show mothers holding the babies at their breast, while sitting relaxed on an armchair in a warm and intimate light. But things are not always that simple and, especially, painless.
While I was researching breastfeeding, I found articles that talk about the fact that the pain associated to breastfeeding is a myth, and that the problem is the incorrect technique of holding the baby.
Any future mom that is preparing to give birth for the first time thinks that the pain associated with labor is the culminating point and that nothing that comes after that will be painful. However, things aren’t always like this.
Like no pregnancy or birth can be compared with another, the experience that follows it cannot be generalized. Mothers are misled when they’re told that breastfeeding is painless and the problem is only with the incorrect technique of holding the baby to the breast.
Breastfeeding can be a challenge – anticipate and be prepared!
Even with all the research done before the pregnancy, the advices from the midwife and the encouragment from the breastfeeding adviser that’s saying that, yes, the technique is correct, there are situations when the pain is strong. And the fact the expectant mother isn’t presented with this aspect produces an emotional shock.
Every woman prepares herself mentally for the pain associated with childbirth, whether it’s a natural birth or a caesarean. The thought that this is the peak of the pain, and then everything is great and easy can have unwanted effects on the new mother.
Emotions, hormones, stress, fatigue, postoperative pain, or post episiotomy, can easily trigger a postpartum depression.
And things become even more sensitive when the mother feels pain while breastfeeding!
Yes, it can occur as soon as the next day after birth – in the case of a natural birth, when lactation ensues faster. And even if there are breastfeeding advisers that can sit next to you, the only thing that will relieve the pain is time. In a few days, the baby will learn how to suckle at the breast, and your body will learn to produce the exact quantity that the newborn needs.
Expectant mothers don’t have to feel frightened when they find out that there is a pain associated with breastfeeding which is not related to an incorrect technique, but rather to an adjustment.
As well, this pain may not exist, and the breastfeeding may happen just like you see it in the movies, magazines, or just like you hear from your friends! But it’s important to mentally prepare for and anticipate this possibility.
Because in those first weeks after birth, even a small and insignificant thing can trigger sadness, panic or a sense of powerlessness.
The more an expectant mother is ready and aware that things can evolve a bit slower, the more determined she’ll feel and know what to expect and the easier she’ll overcome the challenges!
Breastfeeding will become the most beautiful experience! Guaranteed!
And, from the experience of a mom who went through a difficult breastfeeding start and who admits that she felt the temptation to give up completely, nothing can compare to the beautiful feeling of holding your baby at your breast.
Often, during the first few months, this moment will be the one that makes your baby smile the most. And this will also be the impulse that you’ll give your baby to turn itself to one side when you will breastfeed it while lying on the bed beside him.
How was your experience? What advices would you give to other new mothers?