A lot of mothers wonder why their child doesn’t want to study. Often, because they don’t have an answer, parents tend to blame the child. But things are not that simple, because the child can be distracted by a lot of stimuli that affect his behavior.

Here are the most common reasons behind a child’s lack of interest in school.

1. Lack of motivation

We all carry out certain activities because we have a purpose, a motivation. The main responsibility of a child is to learn, but, if he doesn’t feel motivated, he won’t do it. Your role as a parent is to explain to him how important it is to study, and its benefits for his future. Try choosing a more entertaining and educational way instead of punishment or coercion. Pay attention to what he likes and encourage him in that direction. The school curriculum doesn’t allow children to discover and cultivate their talent. Thus, it’s your responsibility to find out what motivates your child and what are his favorite subjects.

Be a team, support him in his quest to be the best in his field (sports, theatre, music, painting, math, writing), but explain to him that you’ll offer him your unconditional support as long as he’ll be responsible towards the other subjects.

2. Family problems

Parents who still think that kids don’t hear their problems, arguments and discussions are making a big mistake. Children pay a lot of attention to discussions inside the house, even when they appear to be captivated by a game. They are sensitive enough to feel the tension and the ironic or mean tone of a parent. And things get worse when the fights are violent, and the parents don’t even try to hide from children.

Kids are affected when their parents fight, and the first negative effect of the atmosphere inside of the house makes its presence felt at school. Family problems can be a reason why your child doesn’t want to study.

Furthermore, the personal problems of parents don’t allow them to offer their child the same patience, calmness and availability. And the lack of interest in school, followed by low grades, is the child’s way to show the adults that he’s affected by what’s happening and that he need attention.

3.  He doesn’t understand the subjects

Without talking about a developmental delay or a learning disability, some children might not understand what they’re taught in school. And because they don’t understand and they feel inferior, they express themselves through a lack of interest in studying.

Parents must discover the cause and, for a period of time, go through the lesson again with the child at home. This way, the child will feel that the parent is supporting him, won’t isolate himself and will treat the problem with more confidence.

4. Bullying (he’s intimidated or terorrized by other classmates)

This phenomenon is pretty common in schools, the violent behavior of some students being a worrying problem that’s increasing dramatically from year to year.

Even though you know you have a good child that, until recently, didn’t have a problem with studying, a lack of interest in school can be explained by the fact that he’s being terrorized by other classmates. The school becomes a place where he doesn’t feel safe, a place where he’s intimidated, maybe even assaulted. That’s why he’ll develop a lack of interest in studying.

If you want to find out about these abuses before it’s too late, you need to have a good communication with your child. Usually, the boys feel much more ashamed than girls when they are victims. Also, maintain a periodic contact with his teachers, to find out about his school situation.

A low grade can be an accident, but when the low grades accumulate in multiple subjects, it can mean that something is happening with your child.

What is, in your opinion, the main reason that children don’t want to study?